- Aug 18, 2014
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My husband and I are (were) new 10U rec coaches this season. Had a brand new group of mostly 9 year old's, but not a full team. We hovered around 6 players most of the summer, but got all the way up to ten at one point, and come draft time, we only had our most dedicated 5 actually sign up. Those girls worked very hard all summer.
A week before the draft, we had two scrimmages, and a girl's (we'll call that girl "J") mom brought on two new players that were all about signing on with our team for the season. They played well. Dad 1 was so rude to me he wouldn't bother looking up from his cell phone to speak after the first scrimmage.
Draft day comes around, and an hour before I am to hear from the field director about any new players, J's mom sends me a text and quits the team, saying that her friend was now coaching and she thought it would be a better fit. J got moved to centerfield in the last scrimmage game, because she won't cover her base and won't field a ball. EVER. Mom wants her to play 3rd. (Don't hate me here - I've been under the gun and player poor all summer. Had to put the kid somewhere.) Field director calls, I no longer have a team, because I only have 4 players and there weren't enough in the draft. (I was told there were so many players who came through the draft last fall that they had to find 4 more volunteer coaches. Huh.) We're being merged with another team, who just so happened to have 6 players. The deciding factor was J, or it would have been 5 and 5. The kicker? She went back to the same coach she came from, the one her mom talked crap about to me all summer.
And now we are all one team. And my husband and I are stripped from coaching, because we have no seniority and less players. The other 4 of our dedicated players, including our pitcher, catcher, SS, and our own daughter (3rd), are all devastated. Their parents are angry. They are being replaced by the other coach's picks and will likely be removed to the outfield, benched, or get drastically less mound time or catching time. He has already told them they don't have enough experience so he is bringing in a TB pitcher and catcher. THIS. IS. REC. BALL. His assistant coach? Dad 1, who couldn't be interrupted from his texting long enough to speak to a female, and who also didn't bother to show up to practice.
So, one parent basically ruined my girls' fall season. I was scouted by another coach, set up by an angry parent who thinks her kid is the best on the field, and as new coaches, we don't know enough people in the office. We were told that we had no other choice but to merge. What would you do? I could pull my kid off the team, but then I would let down the rest of the girls. And if DD goes elsewhere, there's another player that will leave also. Then, all of those girls will get split up into other teams. I want these girls to play softball. All of them, and regardless of who coaches. But the unfairness is ridiculous. What would you do? Am I just blowing all this out of proportion, or do I have the right to be angry?
A week before the draft, we had two scrimmages, and a girl's (we'll call that girl "J") mom brought on two new players that were all about signing on with our team for the season. They played well. Dad 1 was so rude to me he wouldn't bother looking up from his cell phone to speak after the first scrimmage.
Draft day comes around, and an hour before I am to hear from the field director about any new players, J's mom sends me a text and quits the team, saying that her friend was now coaching and she thought it would be a better fit. J got moved to centerfield in the last scrimmage game, because she won't cover her base and won't field a ball. EVER. Mom wants her to play 3rd. (Don't hate me here - I've been under the gun and player poor all summer. Had to put the kid somewhere.) Field director calls, I no longer have a team, because I only have 4 players and there weren't enough in the draft. (I was told there were so many players who came through the draft last fall that they had to find 4 more volunteer coaches. Huh.) We're being merged with another team, who just so happened to have 6 players. The deciding factor was J, or it would have been 5 and 5. The kicker? She went back to the same coach she came from, the one her mom talked crap about to me all summer.
And now we are all one team. And my husband and I are stripped from coaching, because we have no seniority and less players. The other 4 of our dedicated players, including our pitcher, catcher, SS, and our own daughter (3rd), are all devastated. Their parents are angry. They are being replaced by the other coach's picks and will likely be removed to the outfield, benched, or get drastically less mound time or catching time. He has already told them they don't have enough experience so he is bringing in a TB pitcher and catcher. THIS. IS. REC. BALL. His assistant coach? Dad 1, who couldn't be interrupted from his texting long enough to speak to a female, and who also didn't bother to show up to practice.
So, one parent basically ruined my girls' fall season. I was scouted by another coach, set up by an angry parent who thinks her kid is the best on the field, and as new coaches, we don't know enough people in the office. We were told that we had no other choice but to merge. What would you do? I could pull my kid off the team, but then I would let down the rest of the girls. And if DD goes elsewhere, there's another player that will leave also. Then, all of those girls will get split up into other teams. I want these girls to play softball. All of them, and regardless of who coaches. But the unfairness is ridiculous. What would you do? Am I just blowing all this out of proportion, or do I have the right to be angry?
