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May 12, 2013
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My daughter is playing varsity this year on the high school softball team. She is in ninth grade. The team lost a lot of girls last year to graduation. The team had a tournament this past weekend to kick off the season. In four games she got one at bat and played one inning in the field. One of the other freshmen that made the team played all the innings. This girl also played on my travel ball team this past summer. One is not really better than the other. I would say they are even.

That being said, should I confront the coach? She is very frustrated and is already talking about running track.
 

Cannonball

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Feb 25, 2009
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Your dd should approach the coach to see what she needs to do to get more playing time. A freshman on varsity needs to play. Otherwise, she would be better served to be on the JV where she does get to play.

Having said all of this, they only played 4 games. She got in to one of them. From a coaching viewpoint, that is way too early for a parent to want to talk to the coach.
 
May 31, 2012
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You may have blinders on. Either quit or work harder no sense in being unhappy all season. how'd the team do in the tournament.
 
Jun 27, 2011
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My daughter is playing varsity this year on the high school softball team. She is in ninth grade. The team lost a lot of girls last year to graduation. The team had a tournament this past weekend to kick off the season. In four games she got one at bat and played one inning in the field. One of the other freshmen that made the team played all the innings. This girl also played on my travel ball team this past summer. One is not really better than the other. I would say they are even.

That being said, should I confront the coach? She is very frustrated and is already talking about running track.

What would you say?

The fact that a parent thinks that his daughter is as good as someone who played all the innings last weekend doesn't and shouldn't mean anything to a head coach. There probably were a lot of parents who thought their daughter was as good as someone who got all the innings.

Not saying that your assessment is inaccurate, but what would you hope to accomplish in talking to the coach about it?
 
May 12, 2013
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I want to know what my daughter needs to improve on to get playing time. I don't want to blow out a candle in order for my daughter to shine. I have coached before, 9 years total if you include baseball. The team was 3-1 in the tourney, only lost was in championship game. They lost 10-0 and it wasn't even that close. She didn't play that game. She did get to pinch run in the 3rd inning for the pitcher. I have taught my kids if you start something you finish it, so the track comment was in reference to next year.

Simple question to the coach, "What does my daughter have to do to get some playing time?"
 
Dec 5, 2012
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DO NOT CONFRONT THEM.....YET
Way too early right now, if after a few more games your seeing the same, then have dd speak to them. She needs to have a thought out plan and have suggestions for the coach about how she can contribute to the team on the field. If you take the lead...its gonna be a bad situation for all.
 
Dec 19, 2012
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Your DFP name and your post indicate you are a coach. As a matter your post indicates you are a TB coach. You know playing time is not guaranteed. You know that the perception of one's ability is subjective. Chances are you have not been to the HS practices so you don't know what has been going on there as well.

There's really no reason to confront the coach. Right now, no matter what you believe or even know to be true, the HS coach believes the best players are starting.

I guess it depends on what you want to teach your kid. You can teach her to quit or you can teach her to fight for a spot in the field. If she wants field time, she needs to prove she is worthy......in the coach's eyes.
 
May 12, 2013
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I actually agree with everyone's comments. Confront is the wrong term as it comes across as being aggressive. Yes, I am being a helicopter parent. That I see, that is why I posted the question here first. I don't want my dd to get preferential treatment. She has two games this week, I will see how it goes.

As a coach that went through a very rough summer as a TB coach, I learned the hard way that a player cannot prove herself if she is not given the opportunity. Playing time. She missed one practice due to being ill.
 

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