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Sep 27, 2015
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It's just rec ball, they said. It's only $55, they said.

That was 3 years ago now. Since then we've been thru 4 mitts for my 10 year old, three batting helmets, two sets of catchers gear, three bats, and too many pairs of pants/sliders/cleats to count. My 12 year old is on her second glove, about to go get her fourth bat, we've bought two face masks for her, plus all her pants/cleats/sliders (no one told me when she wanted to pitch, how fast they go thru cleats).

We've put close to 60k miles on both our vehicles going to games, have a rewards card for Choice Hotels so we can actually earn free nights, and know the best ways to pack lunches, gear bags, backseats, coolers, and overnight bags.

"Just sign up for rec ball, it's cheap, only $55 per girl," they said.

What they forgot to mention was how my girls would get hooked on the game, how we would watch them grow, improve on and off the field. That rec ball leads to tournament ball, which leads to lessons for catching, pitching, and hitting. That our once quiet lives would change forever.

It's been a ride and as my oldest moves into 14u and my youngest gets ready to start her last 10u season, I wouldn't change it for anything. We've made life long friends, seen places we may never have gone to before, and it's the best ride of all.

Hearing my sweet girls beg to see the softball fields of each town we pass by, just makes everything so wonderful! So enjoy the ride everyone, we sure are!
 
Jun 12, 2015
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<3
I could never have predicted, when I signed my 6 year old up for rec softball, that this was where I'd end up. Right there with you, we wouldn't change a thing.
 
May 24, 2013
12,461
113
So Cal
Rec ball is a "gateway drug".

Sure, not everyone gets hooked, and many kids can enjoy the game for a long time at a rec level, or even walk away from it completely. However, the seedy underbelly that no one wants to talk abouit in rec ball about is the group of girls that get their first taste of that dirt, and all too soon, it's not just about having fun with their friends on a beautiful spring weekend afternoon any more. These kids are hitting the dirt harder. They want more.

The next step down the slippery slope is when some coach hooks them up with all-stars. Practices get longer and more frequent. It's not just one game a week any more. It's a whole day - or multiple days - of game after game after game...and they're playing to win! To top it off, they're bringing it home, too. Hitting, pitching, ground ball, pop flies...often until dark. They can't get enough of it. Parents become pitching machines, or spend hours planted on a plastic bucket, enabling a habit and a hunger that continues to grow stronger. All-stars is easy, though, and it doesn't last very long. Families can still enjoy their summer vacations in exotic and thrilling destinations, and stay at nice hotels.

Then someone says, "You should play travel ball!" It's a trap. This where the hard-core dirt-users can be found. For those who don't understand, it can be a scary place. The days of fun-in-the-sun with school buddies, and a stop for ice cream after the game, all seem like a distant memory - innocent and naive. Travel ball rules your life. You feed it money constantly - dues, uniforms, gear and gear and gear, hours in the car, mid-level hotels, and far too much fast food. Pretty little princesses have become warriors - strong, powerful, and determined...fueled by dirt.
 
Dec 2, 2013
3,422
113
Texas
All Stars is the "gateway drug!"

When you see that look in that glazed over eyes of the parents eyes when they get out of the car at their first tourney...that's it! So many kids, so many teams and no parking spaces. Some can't understand why the coaches can't tell them when the next game is...me points to the bracket at the concession stand...and refer to the 3rd email sent out that week. Some just relish in all the camaraderie with the other parents and the kiddos bonding over a freshly sliced open watermelon. Some parents and kids just say, eh this is isn't for me. Do or die in the loser's bracket. The shiny plastic trophies that are 3 feet tall. It's overwhelming to the senses. It feels so good.

After that last tourney in July, usually 6th or 7th of the summer the parents start asking when is the next one? Can we sign up for another? Can we keep going into the fall? That's the moment they are hooked. That's when you start feeding the "softball" beast. It always wants more. It cannot be satisfied. Nom, nom, nom. The journey begins with another year of rec, and onto all stars, or they make the jump into TB.

It reminds me of Frank the Tank in the movie Old School. Fill it up again. Once it hits your lips, it's so good!

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JAD

Feb 20, 2012
8,231
38
Georgia
My DD played on a Church league REC team, which I am guessing is a step or two below a regular REC league team. One of the coaches decided to start a C-level TB team from players in the league. He had tryouts and DD was lucky enough to make the team. She played LF and batted 9th and was one of six 9 year olds on the team. At the end of the season 10 year olds had to move up to 12U, including both of our pitchers. The head coach held a team meeting and asked the remaining girls if he had any volunteers to learn how to pitch. DD raised her hand and the rest as they say "is history"....we went on a whirl wind pitching binge trying to get my DD "game ready" in 3 months.

Every year we got better and better. Some of it was improvement in the players and some was new players, but I used to love the look on opposing coaches faces when we told them we were a "Church team" after we had stomped them into a mudhole!
 
Aug 26, 2015
590
16
Rec ball is a "gateway drug".

Sure, not everyone gets hooked, and many kids can enjoy the game for a long time at a rec level, or even walk away from it completely. However, the seedy underbelly that no one wants to talk abouit in rec ball about is the group of girls that get their first taste of that dirt, and all too soon, it's not just about having fun with their friends on a beautiful spring weekend afternoon any more. These kids are hitting the dirt harder. They want more.

The next step down the slippery slope is when some coach hooks them up with all-stars. Practices get longer and more frequent. It's not just one game a week any more. It's a whole day - or multiple days - of game after game after game...and they're playing to win! To top it off, they're bringing it home, too. Hitting, pitching, ground ball, pop flies...often until dark. They can't get enough of it. Parents become pitching machines, or spend hours planted on a plastic bucket, enabling a habit and a hunger that continues to grow stronger. All-stars is easy, though, and it doesn't last very long. Families can still enjoy their summer vacations in exotic and thrilling destinations, and stay at nice hotels.

Then someone says, "You should play travel ball!" It's a trap. This where the hard-core dirt-users can be found. For those who don't understand, it can be a scary place. The days of fun-in-the-sun with school buddies, and a stop for ice cream after the game, all seem like a distant memory - innocent and naive. Travel ball rules your life. You feed it money constantly - dues, uniforms, gear and gear and gear, hours in the car, mid-level hotels, and far too much fast food. Pretty little princesses have become warriors - strong, powerful, and determined...fueled by dirt.

I don't know what's worse. The fact that I'm enabling the habit or the fact that I'm enjoying the fact that she is addicted to the dirt so fast.
 
Oct 2, 2012
242
18
on the Field
For us: All Star TB was "CRACK"

We wanted more! We would do anything for it like pick up with other teams on off weekends.

We have tried to quit MANY TIMES over the past 3 years because it was "ruining our lives", but we couldn't. It showed in our appearance. Our grass never is mowed. ALL our shirts are teamed logoed. Our car looks like a crack addict. The 10 yr old GMC Yukon is filled with chairs and buggies and water bottles and Mcdonalds wrappers. We never sleep. We spend 30 hrs of a 48 hr weekend at ball parks or driving to them. We are always BROKE, but can find room in the budget for a new bat or cleats or a glove. There's always money for Crack paraphernalia.

We are softball Crack addicts. Just give it a try....you can always go back to Rec ball.......HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA
 
Jun 12, 2015
3,848
83
It was All Stars that got us too. Went back to rec for one season but it just wasn't enough.
 
Jun 7, 2013
984
0
I am not looking forward to the withdrawal when I can no longer satisfy my habit. Fortunately, my youngest is only second year 14U so I still have time.
 

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